The Everyday Whining Project

About four months ago I was in a discussion on The Jeremy Vine Show, a BBC Radio programme which regularly attracts 6-7 million listeners. Here’s a link to that discussion:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=75Z4NRGkeVE

Also in the studio was Laura Bates, founder of The Everyday Whining Project, as we call it. She herself – along with her miserable band of whiners, both female and male – calls it The Everyday Sexism Project.

Prior to the programme I sent a few polite emails to Laura Bates with links to various posts, so she’d have the opportunity to better understand our positions on a number of matters, and thereby prepare more thoroughly for our discussion. She said nothing on this show to suggest that she’d ready any of that material. Once we were ‘off air’ she had a hissy fit and demanded I stop sending her emails. She then strode angrily out of the studio, leaving a shell-shocked Jeremy Vine to remark, ‘Wow! Interesting… thanks Mike!’

I mention this because yesterday’s Sunday Times carried a full-page article by Francesca Angelini on the topic of sexism, giving huge exposure to material provided by The Everyday Whining Project. Ms Angelini called me on Saturday afternoon, and we had a lengthy discussion, but sadly little of it appeared in the final article – to be fair to her, she was up against a very tight deadline. I’ll restrict myself to reproducing just two paragraphs from the article. The second refers to the incident following which Foreign Secretary William Hague apologised last week, after being caught mouthing the words, ‘Stupid woman!’, to a Labour MP during last Wednesday’s Prime Minister’s Questions.

It pains Mike Buchanan, 55, the founder of Justice for men and boys (and the women who love them). He claims women simply whine more than men. ‘The Everyday Sexism Project is all about attracting dissatisfied women and telling them all their problems are down to men, which just infantilises them,’ he said. ‘They’ve attained incredible power and it’s terrifying.’

Even some women think their own sex is too quick to take offence. Amanda Platell, the former Tory party spin doctor, leapt to Hague’s defence last week. ‘As it happens, Cathy Jamieson, the MP he targeted, IS a stupid woman’, she insisted. ‘But I can only say that because I’m female.’

(Amanda Platell is the Daily Mail columnist who wrote an outstanding piece on abortion for last Saturday’s edition of the paper.)

In my defence, I don’t believe I referred in my discussion with Ms Angelini to The Everyday Whining Project having ‘attained incredible power and its terrifying’. I certainly don’t believe that. I may have made the remark in connection with militant feminism.

The Everyday Whining Project is simultaneously influential and laughable, fighting such ludicrous battles as shaming Tesco, the nation’s leading supermarket chain, to ‘Lose the Lad’s Mags’ –  a battle I predict they’ll win before long. And when they do win it, they’ll inevitably move on to ‘Lose The Sun‘ until such times as that paper loses its Page 3 topless models. Oddly, no woman has ever claimed she was forced to appear on Page 3, and I understand ‘lad’s mags’ are inundated by women keen to appear in the magazines, without being paid.

Maybe we should start a campaign for Tesco to ‘Lose The Romantic Fiction’. Books in this genre invariably show men on their covers, who are:

– rich and/or

– handsome and/or

– tall and/or

– powerful

It’s not fair that the general public, and male store workers in particular, are exposed to such objectifying imagery, which must surely damage men’s and boys’ self-esteem and body image.

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About Mike Buchanan

I'm a men's human rights advocate, writer, and publisher. My primary focus is leading the political party I launched in 2013, Justice for Men & Boys (and the women who love them). I still work actively on two campaigns I launched in early 2012, Campaign for Merit in Business and the Anti-Feminism League. In 2014 I launched The Alternative Sexism Project, aiming to raise public understanding that the sexism faced by men and boys has far more grievous consequences than the sexism faced by women and girls.
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2 Responses to The Everyday Whining Project

  1. vadark says:

    Me too, well done Mike and keep up the great work! And I so agree with your comments on Tesco. It’s a complete double-standard that women are afforded all this protection with regard to magazines etc. when there is ten times the amount of material that goes unnoticed when it comes to male exploitation and sexual objectification. Not wanting to sound like a broken record but male objectification has sharply risen over the last 2 or 3 decades and appears to be proportional to the rise in power that feminism has garnered at the expense of men. I think many women are feeling very smug with all of this. But there is a more sinister side which so far hasn’t materialised i.e. the damage that it is doing to young males who are too scared to speak out for fear of being ridiculed. I reckon millions of young males are experiencing just as many (if not more) body image issues as females but, as per usual, no one recognises it until it’s too late…. sigh.

  2. Richard Hardy says:

    Good work, Mike

    What you are doing, is to catalyse the deep-felt rumbling resentment amongst men that has been building up like a volcano since the late 70’s/early 80’s.

    Many of us have lost children to the so-called “Family” courts that always give custody to the more spiteful sex.

    My parents had 2 sons, and so never saw their grandchildren. My elder brother took his life when his wife took their boy away to live with her boss from work – not an uncommon scenario.

    I, for one, appreciate what you are doing – even if it only helps the next generations of lads.

    Regards,

    RH

    _____

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